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Are Singles Who Use Internet Dating Desperate?
A couple of years ago I recall the looks my friend Jennifer would get when she mentioned she'd been trying internet dating sites. I must admit, at the time, I too thought she must be desperate; couldn't she meet anyone in 'real' life? Didn't she meet people at work, or at parties?
I concluded that she must be either a bit weird or socially inept. Of course, you know I wouldn't be writing about this if she had never met anyone...sure enough, she met someone online and fell in love. He didn't live in Bahrain either, he lived in her town!
Just one experience such as this in your own circle of friends can make you reconsider your hasty judgments. So, could online dating really be the answer? Or, is best to just stick with the traditional method of meeting people, even though it hasn't worked out for you yet?
Well, let's say you're busy all day at work , you go out a couple of times a week with your usual group of friends, and the rest of the time you're doing chores and sleeping; realistically, how many new people are you likely to meet?
Even if you met one new person a week, how many of them are likely to strike up any kind of connection with? One in a hundred? At that rate, it would take you two years to even meet someone that you feel really attracted to. Not bad, but, in the meantime, you've spent two years alone!
So, let's say you look at these statistics and realize you need to up the odds of meeting someone. You do the reasonable thing and sign-up to a dating site that has millions of people in its database. Isn't it still a bit like shopping for a laptop on Amazon?! Isn't it less 'real' than bumping into someone at a party?
Is sending someone a message any less 'real' than saying it directly to them? Be honest, do you message people on Facebook that you haven't seen since your school days? Be even more honest, which mode of communication would you prefer when meeting someone for the first time? This was the main factor that converted me.
Talking to someone new that you like the look of is hard! opening communication is way easier through online dating sites. No more nervous chat-up lines and stuttered introductions. You can think about what you say and how you're coming across. You don't have to worry about blushing or sweating or your mouth going dry.
To summarize, a long time ago, online dating appeared to me like a last resort for lonely people. Now though, I'm convinced that it's without doubt the best starting place for finding a partner. Let's say you meet ten new daters per week as a result of using online dating sites - even if only 1 person turns out to be eligible, you've increased your chances of meeting someone by over 1000! !
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